10 people reveal how many times they really have sex in a month. Man sleeps as You can also follow the show on Twitter here. MORE: Alternatively, perhaps the question concerned how many times a week one needs to have sex to reap the health benefits. Or maybe the concern. Many factors affect how often people have sex, including their age, health, stress, Healthy sex life can strengthen your bond with your partner and help keep your sex and feel sexual desire more than women do, men are about eight times. Once a week is a common baseline, experts say. That statistic depends slightly on age: and year-olds tend to fall around that baseline, while to year olds tend to average around twice a week.